Self Image? What you see vs what the world sees

I've been wondering for awhile now how others see themselves. I've been told I'm fat, obese, and the old "you could stand to lose a few" or some other such thing. Overall I'm happy with me, though. I probably could stand to lose 10or so lbs. But my only problem with my image is my teeth. I personally look at myself and see "me". That's it. "I" think I look fine. My husband still thinks I'm sexy. I've had 2 children and in my thoughts don't look bad. I may not be 110lbs or even skinnier, but I'm happy with who I am.

So I've been wondering what other's see when they look at me? Do I look overweight in their eyes? And what about themselves? Do they not see themselves as looking good? Do they only see what others may want? I don't get that. I will NEVER look like a movie star, I am not one. I'll NEVER have someone here to fix my hair, or do makeup or make sure my clothes fit perfectly and look great together. So no I will not ever look like them. But then I don't want someone probing into my life like they do their's so I'll glad live my life without their looks.

Should I change my self-image to meet what others see? Or should others learn to look at themselves and be happy? Even if they want to change a few things that doesn't mean they don't love who they are. I guess I just don't see the weight I've gained, or else it's not "who" I am. I am Wendy, I will be Wendy until the day I die, no matter if I weight 190lbs or 50lbs. I'll still be Wendy. That's the thing. I'm the same me I was at 5 or 10 or 15 or 21 or 30 or now. I may grow a little, I try to keep an open mind but I'm still who I am.

Just bothers me to see so many young girls trying to be the next supermodel when that's not "who" they are.

Maybe I just don't get things nowadays.

Wendyk

what does your birth month say about you?

Your Birth Month is January

You are a natural leader who is able to stand up when no one else can. Strong and powerful, you tend to overshadow those around you. Your soul reflects: deep love, fascination with life, and a distinctive persona Your gemstone: Garnet Your flower: Snowdrop Your colors: Black, dark red, and dark blue

What Does Your Birth Month Mean?

What Color is your Brain?

Your Brain is Blue

Of all the brain types, yours is the most mellow.You tend to be in a meditative state most of the time. You don't try to think away your troubles.Your thoughts are realistic, fresh, and honest. You truly see things as how they are. You tend to spend a lot of time thinking about your friends, your surroundings, and your life.

http://www.blogthings.com/whatcolorisyourbrainquiz/">What Color Is Your Brain?

My reading list so far this year....

I decided to do a post today about what I've read so far this year. Last year towards the end I lost count of my books but I read somewhere around 156 or so.

This year I've read:
Jan 10 books. They were:
DEAD GIVEAWAY by Brenda Novak an excellent book, I highly recommend it.

AT HER BECK AND CALL by Dawn Atkins a really really good book, a quick read.

FAIR GAME by Elizabeth White an inspirational that is wonderful. This is a book everyone should read.

REMEMBER TO FORGET by Deborah Raney another good read.

DEAD SILENCE by Brenda Novak this is book with DEAD GIVEAWAY and it was just as good. I can't wait for the next book!

HIGHLANDER IN HER BED by Allie MacKay, this is Sue-Ellen Welfonder's paranormal series, book one, and it's a great read. I loved it.

THE RESCUE OF JENNA WEST by Debra Cowan, this was a good book if a little hard to handle at times.

THE RELIANCE by M.L. Tyndall, an inspirational that is really good. It's book two about pirates. Well worth reading.

MARRIED TO THE BOSS by Lori Foster a good quick story

EVERY BREATHE YOU TAKE by Judith McNaught this was much more to my liking than the last JM book I'd read. It was more along the lines of PARADISE to me and so I loved it.

that was it for Jan.
So far in February I've read 10 books and the month isn't over yet. So it's been a good month.

Okay I'll post my Feb reads when the month is over.

WendyK

Just wanted to share my banner. Isn't it great?

WendyK

Life is life

Wow, sometimes life just comes on strong doesn' t it? I've dealt with my mom's major back surgery, my children's school burning down, sick kids, sick hubby, me being sick.......and in general life. So no thought to blogging or even reading others blogs. Wow I've missed both. My writing is on hold for now as well. I have 3 stories that just seem to be in my mind writing themselves, they are like mini-movies that I watch unfold at different times of the day and night. Not sure if I'll ever get them written,but at least I'm enjoying them.:)

My mom's surgery went well. She's home now and is feeling better. My kids are well finally. And the school is slowly getting things back. We, as parent are donating as much as we can. Others in the community have been great, and friends and their families have been awesome. Books are a major loss for the school so those who have helped with that are true angels, IMHO.

It's strange for parents, teachers, and students to be in borrowed space, but at least they get to finish out the year. Hopefully by next school year we will be in a permenant building.

I'm still reviewing books and loving it. hubby is working on the house again, saying we'll move into it by April but we'll have to wait and see. In ways I'm eager in others, I'm dreading it.

My baby girl will soon be 3 and that's hard for me to believe. Where in the world did the time go. Did I somehow miss all those days of her early life and not notice that time was moving on? It sure seems that way. She's our little diva. She thinks she's "the Queen" not princess not for my little girl. Oh no. I swear everyone spoils her, even strangers.(Which I'm sorry to be mean but I don't allow strangers to give her things. It sends the wrong message in my opinion.)

Okay I've got to go my kids wanna terrorize the puppy, more like they want him to play and he just wants them to leave him alone. Poor Rocky.

Until we meet again,
WendyK

A great new book from a favorite author

1. Which psychic power would you most like to possess?
As this is a loaded question in my family, ummm, probably be better able to feel, see, or sense the spirits that surround us. I think seeing the future would be to much responiblity for me.
2. If you could see the future, what would you like to see?
What my kids futures look like, if the world will find peace, what the next lottery winning numbers are?
3. Imagine you woke up one day and could shapeshift - what would you shift into?
Oh I'm greedy, I want to be able to shift into a bear or an eagle. Either one would be awesome!!! I don't know though, ya know a roach will live through the bomb, so maybe a roach would be better? Ewww never mind that just made my skin crawl.
4. What kind of a paranormal creature would you invite over for dinner if there were no limits on who you could ask?
Kenyon's Ash? I can't have him, hum......I'm not sure maybe a Selkie or a little people, or the fey, or....if it could be anyone I'd probably want to see if my grandmother and grandfather's spirits could stop by.
5. Which future innovation do you wish would hurry up and get here already? i.e. flying cars, a transporter, computers with artificial intelligence, an auto chef?
See here is where I differ. I don't really want any of it to hurry up and arrive. I think the more that stuff we get the more problems we have. Not that I don't love my computers, DVDplayers, etc. It's just I have no desire to rush any of it. Well, maybe something that would allow my kids to look at someone and know if they mean them harm.

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